what is love

刘丹华

　　Being possibly the most trivial question of all time, this is one hard question to ask.
　　爱可能是有史以来最平常的一个问题，也是一个让人很难回答的问题。
　　Love is not a bond, or a relationship, but more of a heart to heart conversation. When the conversation grow the bond and relationship forms. Therefore, love creates the bond and relationship.
　　爱不是一种结合，或一种关系，它更多的是一种心灵和心灵的交谈。当这种交谈不断发展时，结合和爱情关系就形成了。因此，爱能导致结合和爱情关系。
　　Still, that leaves us with the main question, what is love?
　　尽管如此，还是留给了我们一个重要的问题，什么是爱？
　　Love is no ordinary thing. It is not voluntary, but when it begin you will know.
　　爱不是一件普通的事情。它不是随意的，在爱产生的时候，你会知道。
　　There are three types of love. Infatuation, love of family, and love of your spouse.
　　有三种类型的爱：糊涂的爱，家庭的爱，夫妻的爱。

　　Infatuation, most commonly known as “Puppy Love”, is basically love at first sight.
　　Infatuation can be the beginning of a future spouse love. Though most often infatuation doesn’t amount to much.
　　众所周知，糊涂的爱是一种不成熟的少年男女之间的爱慕，基本上属于一见钟情。这种爱可能是将来夫妻之爱的开始。不过，这种爱通常不重要。
　　Love of family is loving your mother and father, and any siblings you may have. You want to protect them, watch over them, and fill their lives with an unbounding joy. The parents have an innermost feeling for their children, which in my case, they express everyday.
　　家庭之爱是对你的父母和你的兄弟姐妹的爱。你想要保护他们，照看他们，让他们的生活充满无限的欢乐。父母内心深处对他们的孩子充满了感情，就我来说，这种感情父母每天都会表现出来。
　　Love of your spouse means loving someone you are married to. Whether husband or wife, you support your spouse with a deep modesty, and you treat them with great respect.
　　夫妻之爱意味着爱你结婚的人。无论是丈夫或妻子，你发自内心地支持你的配偶，给他们以最大的关心和尊重。

　　Okay, so I told you the three types of love. But I still haven’t told you what love is. I told you a definition, a heart to heart conversation, but does that tell you much? No. So, I will put it straight.
　　不错，我告诉了你3种类型的爱。然而，我还没有告诉你爱是什么？我告诉过你一个定义：爱是心灵与心灵的交谈，但是，这个定义告诉你爱的全部意义了吗？没有。因此，我将坦率地谈一谈什么是爱。
　　Love means to care, to protect, to watch over, to pray for, to make sure the loved person is happy. But to tell you the truth, those are all parts of love. Not love itself.
　　爱意味着关心、爱护、照顾和祈祷，确保你爱的人快乐。但说实在话，这些都是爱的组成部分，不是爱的本身。
　　So, I will tell you what I think of love. Love has a meaning, but we will never know. Many philosophers have tried, but all their attempts have failed. Every single one of them!
　　因此，我告诉你我对爱的看法是什么。爱具有一种含意，但是，我们永远不知道这种含意。许多哲学家试图弄懂它的含意，但他们的各种尝试全都失败了，他们每一个人都失败了！


　　Love is actually never the same thing.
　　事实上，爱从来不是千篇一律的事。
　　Your destiny, your future path, what you choose to do, that all determines what love is. Love is never the same, you make up the meaning of love by how you choose to use it.
　　你的命运，你的未来之路，你选择干什么，所有这一切决定着爱的意义。爱永远不会是千篇一律的，通过对爱的选择和体验，你会给爱下一个定义。

李建伟